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Your Wife & Your Wi-fi

wife_wifi Truth be told, social media is the most formidable foe of friendship and intimacy. It gives you an illusion of closeness and personal touch while actually putting a barricade to the very things it is designed to bridge. Social media’s firstborn bastard child is none other than the smart phone. You see its effects everywhere; in the bus, bar, salon, café and boardroom. Two minutes cannot even pass by before you slide your phone open to see what is up on Whatsup, who has posted on your Facebook wall, which of your followers have retweeted your latest tweet, whose profile picture is trending on Instagram and what new archive is in your Dropbox. Sadly enough, you check all these things as your friend or partner is left talking to himself or herself while staring at your inclined forehead with your eyes fully focused on the phone screen; better yet, he or she gets bored and automatically slides open his or her own smart phone if they happen to have one. It is therefore no surprise that the same thing ends up happening behind closed doors in the most intimate of situations. One of my favorite bloggers, Ciarra Ross, rightfully states that ‘something is completely out of order when the most important vibration to a nation of people is their cell phones’.

Now let us dissect the impact of social media gadgets behind the most important closed door: the bedroom. Going through your phone while spending intimate time with your partner should be considered a serious crime of passion, which should be punishable to the highest extent of the law. I state this based on the belief that intimacy is not as trivial as some would have us believe. Why then should someone misuse part of these divinely phenomenal intimate moments to engage his bundle-based Wi-Fi instead of connecting deeper with his precious Wife/partner? Social media primarily engages the mind and once the mind is sidetracked, the body and spirit follow suit. The dissatisfaction resulting from constant distractions when spending quality time is a typical marital/relationship ticking time bomb.

The marital problems resulting from intimacy issues are already grave; why then exacerbate the matter by constantly stalling the full flow of affection due to obsession with a cellphone? It is good to remind ourselves that the uncouth and anti-social habits, resulting from preoccupation with social media, which we display in public, will automatically replicate themselves in the privacy of our bedroom walls.

Maybe it is time you tell your Facebook you want your face back; time to tell your Twitter handle to retweet your wit ASAP. Otherwise, the moments set aside for spending quality time with a loved one will just provide fertile ground for conflict between sacred relationships and soul-less technology. As for who will win this great battle, it depends entirely on which of them you spend more time engaging. The hope is that the signal to connect to your Wife/partner will be stronger than that of your smart phone’ s Wi-Fi.

__uThanDiLe©2015

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Posted by on January 15, 2015 in Culture

 

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The Economics of Affection

The Economics of Affection
Economics of Affection

I think some of our women, especially those in the spotlight, socialites to be specific, are walking a tightrope and convincing their legions to join them on the already breaking rope. It is a very dangerous affair if you ask me. As an environmentalist I know full well that there is absolutely nothing wrong with a woman analyzing a male based on his ability to provide security for her and her offspring. Every female will do that naturally, whether in the wild or in the suburb; be it the lioness in the Maasai Mara, Mama Mboga in Kawangware or the Range Rover driving bank CEO lady in Kilimani. It is a standard test of nature: Provision, Protection, Preservation and Procreation. All these can be summed up in one word: Security. However, there is a major crack in the above syllogism especially when it comes to the modern day woman who somehow equates security to money and property. It is what I call the Economics Illusion of Affection and the first illusion is that money can somehow purchase affection.

When I talk of security, I refer to the security of protection, security of trust and honesty, security of dedication and affection, security of responsibility and nurturing, and the security of intimacy. Take note that of all these securities, only one is linked to a monetary measure. Now, a lot of women totally fail to see this grave mathematical mistake of equating love to cash. That error, if you ask me, is the perfect formula for a complicated relationship, which in turn results into a disastrous marriage. What is even more heartrending is the thought of the horde of women out there looking for relationship advice and somehow adopting the economics of affection mentality. It is indeed a tragedy of the blind following the clueless.

Too many women believe that good men are very few; a sort of endangered species if I may use an environmental term. To say the truth, by reasoning like the public socialite, their statement is not too farfetched. There are not very many rich men out there, and even fewer wealthy gentle ones. If the number of zeros in the bank account is the standard by which women will measure the ability of a man to provide security for them, then our graves will continue to boast of the abounding treasure of spinsters with broken hearts.

__uThanDiLe©2015

 
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Posted by on January 13, 2015 in random thoughts

 

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uThanDo

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wen shi ax 4 flowerz, grab ha di starz….

wen shi need a laugh, light up ha heart with rayz 4rm di sun…

wen shi desire di wealth a dis wurl, giv ha tha gift with tha greatest worth.

Luv.

wen shi ax 4 ur heart, dont giv her ur cash,

giv her Luv.

wen shi need a laugh, dont giv her a car,

just hold her hand,

a hug.

tha simple acts of Luv got tha greatest worth.

just giv her some Luv

__uThanDiLe©2014

 

 
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Posted by on May 27, 2014 in Uncategorized

 

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Prayer for an Empress

Oh Jah Jah
as I empress rises from her rest
just as tha sun wakes from its
nightly nest
make her day more b-utyfull than
the diamons of kinshasa
Saturate her day with more glorious grace
than the great falls of the limpopo
Guide every decision she makes till it gains
more precision tha the elegant eagle’s vision
Oh Jah Jah
bless I empress 24/7
Bless her from sun-up to sunset
put plenty joy pon her heart from
wen she open her eyes till wen she
rest her head pon her bed
saturate her mind wit cool vibes
& her lips with a divine smile
Fill I empress’ heart with tha
deepest of our ancestors wisdom
Protect I empress from negative missions
Intill in her more courage than the
conquering Lioness of Judah
& I & I humbly ask that oh Jah Jah
to keep I empress love burnin hotter
than the volcanoes of Ethiopia
grander than the pyramids of Giza
& persistent like the Solomonic dynasty.
Silah (Amen).

uThanDiLe©2013

 
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Posted by on October 24, 2013 in Uncategorized

 

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Nothin’ Mo’

 

ur presence is mo valuable than
any present
4get how much cash you say
you spent
aint nothin in this world can match ur
natural essence
not even that nice note attached to that
exquisite  gucci watch inscribed with gems stones from 
the gold coast
I’d rather have ur warm soft palms instead of rolex watch straps
wrapped around ma long ebony arms
No words no mattah how suave can make my heart skip
syncretic beats
only a mild kiss on ma sun-roughed cheeks by ur smooth
curvy convex lips can achieve that
marvelous magic trick
Don’t get me wrong oh be-you-t-full swit
wonderful oasis spring
lost n found ebony rib
my most precious blessing
Mi luvs how u meticulously choose the swit gifts
to get I ur paprika prince
but I’d rather have you for a minute than
in your absence
receive nice gifts foreva eternally.
Like steel
gifts lack the spirit & warmth that heats up the
life flowin withn ma bloodstream
Ur smile
how u carelessly trip over ma large elongated feet
u being so notoriously silly even in public
Thats wat I need
thats wat makes I & I heart tick
wat makes I wanna breath in deeply
U once asked wat it is that I & I want
now u know
UR PRESENCE
Nothing mo’.
 
uThanDiLE©2013
 

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Posted by on October 10, 2013 in Uncategorized

 

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Them Friends

A cut to tha bud to strengthen tha growing fruit
sometimes friends u gotta let loose
to increase his harvest tha farmer gotta prune
fo’ tha sake of ur prince/princess otha bonds gonna get bruised.

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Watch dem fren’ u a keep
not all a dem wish ya to win
some a wolf some a sheep
some dem fake some dem real
some fren’ mek ur soul sing
some mek ur heart bleed
Jah know real fren’ a true blessin..
May he guide u to choose ur crew wisely.

 

_uThanDiLe©2013

 
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Posted by on August 14, 2013 in Uncategorized

 

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