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Are you Man Enough?

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What does it take to be a man….

Manhood

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Posted by on June 9, 2017 in Uncategorized

 

Alice Walker

Inspiration……

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She is a true inspiration…

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Posted by on April 30, 2015 in Uncategorized

 

Why Men Are Never Comfortable In Church

Why he won’t go to church with you

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A man’s mind is not wired for the church. A sincere church going man is like a grass-eating lion; very rare to find but nowhere close to extinction. Allow me the honor of taking you on a tour of the makeup of a man which causes him enormous discomfort anytime he finds himself on a church seat.

The Spiritual Tourist

Most men are in church because of their women. Any man, at least the reasonable one, will do just about anything for the woman who has somehow managed to tame his wretched heart, which includes accompanying her to church. The church dictates total conformation of every soul within its walls. Let it be known that a man who attends church is not necessarily a convert.  Going to church doesn’t make you a Christian in the same way visiting an arboretum does not make you a tree. Most men in church…

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Posted by on February 20, 2015 in Uncategorized

 

The Self-Fulfilled Lady

How to know she is The One….

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Someone somewhere has miraculously resurrected an almost extinct species of women: the Self Fulfilled Lady. That mysterious lady who goes wherever she wills as herself and only herself. The lady who does not raise tantrums just to get attention, but who won’t hesitate to shove some shoulders whenever her dignity is insulted. She is indeed a unique creature of creation. She won’t endeavor to harm her backbone by balancing her body on six inch hills on the ruggedly concrete jungle of Moi Avenue Street. She won’t suffocate her hips with tight gripping high-knee minis just to break the sweaty necks or blind the roving eyes of ordinary Nairobi hustlers, sufferers and perverts. She won’t walk around swaying her assets like a cypress tree wrestling with the wind on a chilly Monday morning just to flare up jealousy from the flock of casually dressed hardworking women who routinely manage and maintain…

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Posted by on February 20, 2015 in Uncategorized

 

She is a Sangoma Not a Witch

Why you should visit a Sangoma (witch)

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kum10My Gogo (grandmother) often says to me that unless I leave my mother’s house, I will grow up believing she is the best cook in the world.

One cool morning, looked at my mirror and saw a monkey staring back. Unsure of whether I was awake or in a trance, I blinked once and then once more. When I opened my eyes, there was not only the monkey but a meerkat had joined the peep show.

They say mirrors are a reflection of the heart just like water in a stream; they show you things that the ordinary eye cannot see.

I was anxious to know what these images meant, but I was in a fix. If I went to my elders, they would say I am deranged. If I went to my friends, they would jokingly say I need to stop smoking that herb and if I went to…

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Posted by on February 20, 2015 in Uncategorized

 

When Your Wi-fi is Competing With Your Wifey

How a smartphose can break your relationship

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Truth be told, social media is the most formidable foe of friendship and intimacy.
It gives you an illusion of closeness and personal touch while actually putting a barricade to the very things it is designed to bridge. Social media’s firstborn bastard child is none other than the smart phone. You see its effects everywhere; in the bus, bar, salon, café and boardroom. Two minutes cannot even pass by before you slide your phone open to see what is up on WhatsUp, who has posted on your Facebook wall, which of your followers have retweeted your latest tweet, whose profile picture is trending on Instagram and what new archive is in your Dropbox. Sadly enough, you check all these things as your friend or partner is left talking to herself while staring at your inclined forehead with your eyes fully focused on the contents of your phone screen; better yet…

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Posted by on February 20, 2015 in Uncategorized

 

When Cash Can’t Secure You Some Real Love

Looking for Love in Money…..

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I think some of our women, especially those in the spotlight, socialites to be specific, are walking a tightrope and convincing their legions to join them on the already breaking rope. It is a very dangerous affair if you ask me. As an environmentalist I know full well that there is absolutely nothing wrong with a woman analyzing a male based on his ability to provide security for her and her offspring. Every female will do that naturally, whether in the wild or in the suburb; be it the lioness in the Maasai Mara, Mama Mboga in Kinshasa or the Range Rover driving bank CEO lady in Geneva. It is a standard test of nature: Provision, Protection, Preservation and Procreation. All these can be summed up in one word: Security.

However, there is a major crack in the above syllogism especially when it comes to the modern day woman who…

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Posted by on February 20, 2015 in Uncategorized

 

Unmasking Manhood: Nurturing Males Into Men

Unmasking manhood. Who is a man?

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You are born male. You learn to become a man. Male instincts are your default setting, but Manhood is something that necessitates constant practice and nurturing.

A chunk of us men sometimes behave like beasts because we have sharpened our male instincts at the expense of our manhood. Our mothers and sisters and wives and daughters are sometimes not safe since they are surrounded by aggressive males instead of nurtured men.

Many of us young men are busy complicating our lives by breezing through it in trial and error. We have no one to teach us how to become men, so many times we just guess. The TV screen, on the other hand, is sharpening the beast within us on a daily basis. We are a young generation without mentors, walking through life like sheep without shepherds. Our manhood is gravely misguided; we are meager males perceived to be real…

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Posted by on February 20, 2015 in Uncategorized

 

Women, Gold & Men of Character

Men, Manhood & Money

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Posted by on February 20, 2015 in Uncategorized

 

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Posted by on February 20, 2015 in Uncategorized